In reference to my last post regarding the governments decision to start enforcing the prohibition of sexual articles which includes sexual articles and Q&A columns in magazines and newspapers. It’s pretty obvious that a lot of people and not just myself are seriously baffled at the sheer cluelessness that the higher ups seem to have regarding the entire matter.
Unfortunately, that’s not where the fault lies.
Bear with here for a moment.
From reading and talking to a lot of people, it strikes me that a lot of people tend to place a certain importance on the media (magazines and net), peers and the government when it comes to sexual education. But am I the only one here that feels like we’re forgetting the most important teachers of life here?
That’s right. To me at least sex is something personal, intimate, emotional and maybe even a little spiritual. With something that important in your life, it’s important that you get of to a right start from your own home before you hear about weird things out there.
To anyone who is a parent or…well…to anyone really. Sex isn’t something to be embarrassed about. When you come to think of it, ask yourself why are you embarrassed about it in the first place? How can sex be any different than talking about anything else in life. After all it’s part of our biological nature, it’s all over the news, hell…it’s something you probably have done to begin with. If you think that this shyness is an asian value. Consider this again.
There are plenty of western parents who are embarrassed to talk to their kids about sex too.
It doesn’t make things any easier on all of us.
And if anyone is scared that talking to their children about sex would ruin their innocence. Maybe you should also consider this. A child doesn’t lose their innocence because they know about a few more things in the world. A child begins to lose their innocence when they find out they have been kept in the dark about things they should have known.
Things people they trust should have told them about.
I was a child once too…I can vouch for that.
Forgetting that something as wholesome and important as sex ever existed in our own home and leaving that responsibility to the outside world is one of the worst thing you could prepare your child for. Sex isn’t meant to be put down on a piece of paper or handled by peers of even complete strangers. I know it may be hard for a lot of parents. I know it’s not the easiest thing in our culture, but if you let the world teach your child sex, who knows what your child may learn from who?
It may be from someone who doesn’t know anything.
It may be from a person who has a bad opnion of it.
Or worse…it may be from a complete pervert.
No matter how much people try to shield us from things. Something as natural as sex cannot be kept hidden forever. One way or another, we will know. Hell…I knew about sex when I was 7. I may have my sexual quirks here and there but it didn’t turn me in a high risk, disease spreading pervert. Every child will find out sooner or later whether you make it your responsibility or not.
Forget our schools single topic section on reproduction. Forget the mostly entertaining and informative reads of sexual articles and Q&A sections in magazines and newspapers. Forget your peers who giggle whenever they hear the word “dick” or “pussy”. Let’s definitely forget the government’s views on sex education.
Only you can determine how well you prepare your child for that world filled with sex.
Let ignorance be an option no more.