Girls For Guys Like Us

There is a lot that can be said for the nice guys. The geeks, the intellectuals and the emotional ones. Unfortunately not many are said because for the most part, it is guys like us that are usually left in the dust, ignored and taken for granted by all, save for when we are needed the most, and cast aside when the deed is done.

For the longest time, I used to believe that, there is no such thing as a happy ending, not for me anyway. That for all it’s worth, the human connection was too futile to invest in, much less finding someone willing to accept and appreciate, in open arms, who we are and what we’re capable of. Yet, in this resignation of a simple fate, I began to understand that being who I am, doesn’t always mean I know what I can do.

In the years that followed, I began to learn that for the most part, while guys like us tend to attract girls in dire need of emotional help, it is in that eventuality that wins over the ones that matter most in life. Not the girls that have so much more to explore in life, but the ones who are sick and tired of dealing with the same bullshit over and over again, and more so, the ones smart enough to never buy into the whole messy game in the first place.

It was in those years that I learned, just as I have been taken for granted for the person I am, so too have I taken for granted the women that I recently found myself connecting to on a deeper level than most. The geeks, the intellectuals, the practical ones, the ones that will stand by those they care for, only to be cast aside for shallower reasons than most. Doesn’t that sound so familiar? I would definitely think so.

So why shouldn’t it be that the girls for guys like us exist in a place where we have completely overlooked all this while? Why shouldn’t it be that the people who are our equals and our opposites share the same kind of recluse segregation from the normal public we so want to connect and be hurt by? Why shouldn’t it be that we get together to enjoy ourselves to see how far it goes, day after day, for as long as we both shall live?

Today, I still am that same geek, the same intellectual, the same emotional one, the same nice guy. I still have the same problems as before in connecting to a world that’s dressed ever so normally. This time though, I know that there are girls that reflect the same images as I do. The same quirkiness and eccentricity that I can appreciate and complement as they have with my own. This time, I know there are girls for guys like us.

And the best thing is, this time, I made sure they know I exist.

4 thoughts on “Girls For Guys Like Us

  1. Bravo for this post. I think that if we take the time to really get to know someone on a deeper level than it doesn’t matter whether the nerd or the cheerleader/quarterback. Two people who connect on that level bring out the most beautiful things in each other.

  2. Geek Corn to Geek Zahari:
    Hail to geeky gals! I found mine (not that geek actually..she dun really like computers but she shares same intellectual thoughts as i do)…hope u found ur geek… LOL

    Nice blog topic and nicely illustrated… Keep up the good work
    Regards,
    CornLord

  3. Kimberly: The thing before we can get to know a person is to know where to start looking. Most of the time, we’re always looking in the wrong places, that’s why for the better part of our lives, the better people for it doesn’t exist.

    CornLord: Ed will do fine for a name. 🙂 Geeks don’t have to be people who like computers, they just have to be people who are very knowledgeable about something and use it as a form of socialising. Hence, you can have movie geeks, music geeks, photography geeks, science geeks and so on. I have someone to share that life with me though. Never saw it coming, never thought to look in that direction until it hit me. That’s the beauty of it.

  4. This is a good write especially the first paragraph. But I would like to add, if I may, nice guys usually have the last smile as they saw those who cast them aside after the deed is done, falls apart one by one. Most of them, if not all.

    Sounds pretty vengeful, but given the situation, the nice guy have the right to think that way, isn’t it? Oh well, maybe that’s just my thought. 😉

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