The Heart Of A Relationship

“We bring out the worst in each other.”

“How so?”

“I abstain you from making any moral decisions and you make me follow no one else but my own sense of reality. We make each other much more the sociopath.”

“How is that a bad thing again?”

In every successful relationship, partners have to complement each other for things to work. It’s not as much as the love that seals the gaps in between, but the complementary actions that puts our strengths front and center and makes up for each other weaknesses. For many of us, finding someone who is our equal and opposite is a hard thing to find, but more often than not, such connection is built over time.

I tend to believe that most relationships don’t work out because when people change over time, those changes take them far apart from one another. In knowing who we are and what we can do, we then begin to have an idea of what we want and what we can see in another. Something we all want in a relationship, the kind of emotional security we can take to the bank if they ever accepted feelings as a form of currency.

Meanwhile, I’ll enjoy the connection that I have, as unorthodox as it is. After all, if bringing out who we really are is something that should be done in a relationship, then let it be the best parts of us that we focus on. Even if that means bending more than our handful of social taboos. Can’t say I don’t like it. Can’t say you won’t either when you find out what your best really is.

6 thoughts on “The Heart Of A Relationship

  1. In successful relationships, people can be themselves around each other without pretence. It’s not always about bringing out the best or worst but knowing that you’re comfortable and trusting enough to be yourself at all times.

  2. It’s about trusting and being yourself first, though anyone can do that without a relationship. Maybe I’m just being a romantic in saying that to be complete, you need someone to bring out that part in you. A part which makes a relationship got for all that it’s worth.

  3. “when people change over time, those changes take them far apart from one another” <– especially when they are in a long distance relationship. It’s really hard to avoid growing apart when two people are living apart.

  4. Yes and no. It’s the easiest to grow apart because the changes aren’t shared in all it entirety. That’s why we always go back to who we are and why we do the things we do. If you’re always traveling on the same road regardless of whether you’re in a relationship or not. Not even a physical distance can separate the both of you.

  5. People do change every other time, that’s why relationship should not be static but rather a dynamic one.

  6. hey Edrei!!! Pat’s sister here, MOnica. I accidentally found ur blog though petalingstreet. what a coincidence!!!

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