You know, you’re like a servant and Mel is the Master?
You mean I’m submissive to her?
Is this the first day you’ve known me?
Is there anything wrong with men who are submissive to their partners? Because from where I come from or at least the way I see it. There is nothing wrong when the woman wears the pants in the relationship. Yet what is it about almost every culture that has to have the men wear the pants and the women, pine after the security of a man who wears it well?
Yes I know perfectly well that the secret to understanding a woman is a healthy dose of respect and the knowledge that every woman needs to find security and that’s fine by me. But tagging behind a woman’s whims and fancies in a relationship doesn’t make the man any less of a security breach. Far from it. It’s just that every woman is different.
Just as there are women that crave the attention of men as a source of security, so are there women who are forced to become dominant to keep up in a male dominated world but still need as much security as any other women, as are there women who are naturally dominant and barely need an emotional blanket to comfort them.
In the relationship game between the dominant and the submissive, I just happen to be attracted to women who are dominant. Mel is no exception to that rule. In fact, she is the rarest of the kind. The ones who are naturally dominant, free from any need to find emotional security, but instead seeks the security found in their actions and in financial gain. Women like this don’t need to be coddled. To them it is a pleasurable luxury in their free time. Their main comfort is in knowing that their responsibilities have paid them off well.
It’s then understandable why men like me seek out women like Mel. The roles are reversed and in the culture where men are the dominant ones and women are supposed to be submissive, I am the one playing out her every decision. I trust her to make the better choices in things I still cannot grasp and I have not regretted anything. It isn’t the least bit intimidating and for the most part, it gives me my own emotional security blanket.
I do have a question for you. For men, could you date a woman who is more dominant than you? For women, how much security do you need in a relationship? It’s always nice to know that maybe, what we have here isn’t something most rare. That maybe, we’re not one of a kind. In a world where society follows the majority, its nice to have friends that won’t wonder how unusual your life is, even if you wear the pants and your partner picks out all the colours for it.