The Old Magic Of Distant Love

It’s a different thing altogether, to express affection and love for one another through an electronic medium rather than the gentle physical ministrations and caresses that we’ve become accustomed to in the years we’ve spent being together. For one, I miss holding and being held, a comfort that has always eased the burdens of my mind where words have failed. Secondly, it really makes for a poor story to tell. At least one I’m not used to writing down here.

But I’m not complaining. I just am clinging on to the memory of an act I cherish so dearly in place of feeling warm skin upon skin and the permeating citrus scent every time I bury my face in her neck. Fading memories that otherwise give rise to a feeling of emptiness and tugging heartache that distance always brings. Distance that even instant digital communication cannot solve.

It’s ironic that in decades and centuries past, the common medium for long distance relationships were letters. Hand written with all the love in the world and sealed with a kiss. It sounds so cliche now, our perceptions of love diluted by the apathy the world has wrought. But in those days, to think that young men and women, separated by distance and time, could still find it in their hearts to stay true to one another, whereas we stray and fall pray to our insecurities at the slightest whim. You’ve got to ask yourself. Are we missing something here?

Have we forgotten an old magic?

8 thoughts on “The Old Magic Of Distant Love

  1. No, I don’t think we’re missing something.

    I just think that long-distance relationships, which used to be jumped in only by the people who had the commitment for it, has had its requirements changed. A few generations ago, many would have balked and chosen not to get involved at all. The ones who did, made it last.

    Now though, the entry requirement is lower. A lot of people think a long-distance relationship would be easy to get into, and it is. They promise to keep in touch via SMS etc, but if the commitment is not there or if they’re easily distracted, then the relationship falters.

    And the digital memories are harder to cling to. At least back in those days, they had the actual letters to read. Now though, it’s hard to find someone who will write you.

    *Goes write a letter off to her own boyfriend* >.<

  2. Naoko: Wait a minute. By that logic of people getting into it because they “think it’s easy” mean that they are missing something? The way I understand it, people then had a bigger sense of commitment than the people now. It would seem to be something of a norm to be gone for long periods of time and exchange letters every now and again. Now it’s just for the sake of it and because you can. There is no spirit there anymore.

    Mel writes me letter though as do I to her. Always a good surprise, just not done nearly as enough.

    Iris: Very true. Very obvious as well. 🙂

  3. I don’t know how to say but I totally agree with Iris, stick in and everything will be fine, and best wishes, first comment in your blog, nice theme with fantastic post, 🙂

  4. Long ago when there was no Internet, and the only way to stay in touch with each other was through letters, which take ages to arrive, and people can still stay true to each other. Now, with the wonders of the Internet, one can still see his/her partner through webcam, stay in touch with each other constantly via emails and text messages, Skype to call each other, and the love could still die. Funny huh?

  5. Late reply, but it could be that with all these “tools” we actually overfed ourselves with each other, thereby making both parties get bored and falling out of love with each other faster?

    So what could have been a blossoming love instead turned into an overheated infatuation.

  6. Naoko: I know that infatuation can become love but not love becoming infatuation. I can’t see how technology today people that love each other sick of one another. Physical presence, yes. But we’ve established that the digital communication is no substitute for physical presence.

    Maybe if you argue on the commitment to time on the other hand. Now that would be a better point.

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