Turning Onto The Marriage Highway

She has become particularly high strung. Elements that wouldn’t, shouldn’t bother a normal sane person is starting to annoy her in ways even I never thought possible. Or course, it should be said that with my friend’s wedding happening in less than a month, it might be understandable. It also should be said that my definition on what’s normal and sane isn’t exactly a yardstick standard either.

With friends and people I know getting married of late, it’s not hard to imagine the future of my own relationship. No longer is it at a point where we’re not certain if we’re right for each other. Neither are we at a point where couples drown themselves in the intoxicating scent of love that’s nauseating to everyone else around them. As unorthodox this relationship was from the start, it has grown to be something solid and enduring, yet at the same time, grounded at its roots.

There is no doubt in my mind that I want to spend the rest of my life with Mel if she’ll let me. Though there is a certain ironic humour to found in an emotional man unafraid to express his feelings who’s dating a cold woman afraid at the very idea of a committing relationship. Yet despite the differences, we’ve hit off in ways that surprise even us. Through thick and thin, good and especially the bad, we’ve always seem to find one each others company one comfort to always turn to. If there was any reason to stand by a person now, I don’t think I can ever connect with anyone else as perfectly as I do, here and now.

With our relationship now, short of joint accounts, a ring and a need to sound proof the house, we know what we can expect from a matrimonial life. So it’s baffling for me to see people lose themselves to prepare for a day which follows the same lines as any other celebration of love. To see bonds stress under the impact of a day that’s supposed to mean something good. It doesn’t make sense. At least not for me. Not where I’m standing.

Maybe when the time comes, it’ll be my turn to face that fire. Being unorthodox as I am, there is bound to be more than a few problems that aren’t in the book. But for now what’s important is the road to that moment. There is a lot more to build on before we get to that point. So at least when the time comes, saying “I do” is just a formality for the sake of a tradition which either one of us can do without.

4 thoughts on “Turning Onto The Marriage Highway

  1. The tradition, in my opinion, is an official recognition by the family and friends of those getting married. It’s more to tell them that yes, you and your spouse have made the official commitment in the eyes of the Law and in some cases, God.

    Personally I don’t see the reason for a big wedding myself. It’s enough just to have your close family and friends for it. The night before the wedding is where you should have the random people coming up to join you.

  2. Naoko: I just think that the main part of that tradition is basically to share your official reason for being happy to the world. It’s why the more the merrier in terms of superstition, wealth and good luck for the future.

    The probably forgot that Murphy comes by an uninvited guest anyway. 🙂

  3. Mine felt like such a freak show. Adding both dinner receptions, we had about 800 guests, out of whom we only knew about a quarter of. It’s freakin’ tradition for the family on both sides which I so wished I could have done without. The only part which was only really for the two of us was the 10 minute session of exchanging of vows and rings.

    Just immediate family and very close friends. That was what we dreamt of 🙂

  4. Tine: I’ll have to try and remember then that it’s about what we want. I’m not much of a traditionalist and neither is Mel. Maybe that’ll work to our advantage. 🙂

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