We’re Still On Meeting The Parents

The worst thing that can happen when you're meeting your girlfriend's parents is when their father tries to live in denial of his daughter's relationship.

Hey, Murphy's Law applies to me too!!

But that is the truth and it has been for sometime now. The difference is that before this, we could all safely avoid the issue because we're continents apart. Now that we're all together in the same house, some things you can't just run away from.

The only thing I can do now is like those of you have cheered me on before is to be who I always was. Of course, I assume that you're not referring to the times when I can get melancholic, self-critical and otherwise isolated. Oh no, it would be a prerogative not to show that side of me to the parents. On the other hand, personal charm can only go far when people share with me their thoughts about things. So far, not a peep from the parents.

Her uncle on the other hand was much more talkative, which by far…well…I don't what to make of it.

But despite the fact I'm scared shitless right now, this is what I'm going to do. I am going to be myself. I am going to just do what I have always done in cases like this and treat her parents like anyone I have met for the first time. Most of all, I'm not going to try hard because I know my limitations and I do not intend to stuff up the next 48 hours.

Mel graduation deserves to go without a hitch and one way or another this is about her limelight not mine, nor her parents and I intend to see to it that happens. The only thing that can be done is to put my foot forward one step at a time and maybe, just maybe, things will go for the better.

Here's to small miracles. So wish me luck.

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Kris wrote from on April 19, 2007 at 22:09 and said:

good luck! and yes, be yourself, no point impressing them with a personality that isn’t urs at all and they find out tht u’ve ‘deceived’ them. i’ll be rooting for u from perth!

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Tine wrote from on April 19, 2007 at 22:42 and said:

All the best, mate. I reckon you’ll wow ‘em over

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pelf wrote from on April 19, 2007 at 23:20 and said:

Yea, you’re right — you shouldn’t try TOO hard. Just be normal, and treat them like how you would other people’s parents, only with a wee bit more sensitive. I remember when I met my boyfriend’s parents for the first time, I treated his Mum like how I did my aunt, and it was smooth-sailing (thank God)

So yea, GOOD LUCK!!!

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Silly Pat wrote from on April 19, 2007 at 23:39 and said:

Good luck and GAMBATTE, EDREI!

You can do it, and I hope Mel’s graduation will go off without a hitch too!

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Esther wrote from on April 20, 2007 at 01:48 and said:

Lol. I know what you mean. My father was in denial of my relationship too. Then again, they are just being protective. And that, I feel is a good challenge for my boyfriend because if he can stand the pressure, take the criticism, and the harsh treatment just for a little while, things will be great afterwards. Just like the show “Meet the Parents” right?

Good luck!

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Tracey wrote from on April 20, 2007 at 08:04 and said:

Meeting the parents is always a scary undertaking…I think it is partly to do with the unknown and the rest to do with whatever is going on at the time. Good luck Edrei, I agree with just being who you are…sometimes I wonder if you could be someone else but the Edrei I have come to know and love…but that is a question for another day. Congratulations Mel! Heres hoping everything does go off without incident.

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Kamigoroshi wrote from on April 20, 2007 at 13:49 and said:

Kris: Yeah!! Any cheerleading outfit to go with that?

Tine: Thank you. Hopefully.

Pelf: Got to remember to call Asian parents “Auntie” and “Uncle”. I’ve been here in Australia for far too long.

Pat: I think my subsequent post will answer that.

Esther: It’s because I’m faced with this all the time that I’m tired of it. I don’t want to constantly fight to be accepted. How many miles must be traversed before the end?

Tracy: It’s always the unknown, but I’ll make sure I’ll make myself known. Even if it is one crazy fact at a time.

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Chibster wrote from on April 20, 2007 at 14:47 and said:

You’ll do great. =)

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kris wrote from on April 20, 2007 at 17:12 and said:

well, i would wear a cheerleading outfit but then again, i dont have pom poms

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Orangeface wrote from on April 20, 2007 at 17:39 and said:

Heya ED!!!
Do you still remember me?
I am back to blogging, for now at least. Hehe~
Miss you!!!!~~

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Kamigoroshi wrote from on April 20, 2007 at 21:16 and said:

Chibster: One can only hope.

Kris: I think by right, between you and me, that would be enough to cheer me on.

Orangeface: Yes I do remember you. I still have you on my IM in fact. Drop me a line or 3 when you’re free.

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pelf wrote from on April 20, 2007 at 21:39 and said:

Whoa! Yea, you’d better don’t go around calling Mel’s parents by their first names! Hahhah..

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Katrina wrote from on April 21, 2007 at 11:45 and said:

Good luck!!!

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