Early Morning Thoughts

Me: You looking at what I’m looking?
Mel: I think so.

There is this certain sense sweetness whenever you see older people hold hands and do the lovey dovey in public. When I mean older people, I don’t just mean those of us in our late 20’s and 30’s…or even 40’s for that matter. I’m talking those of us that are in our 50’s and still are just as frisky as high school students on their first date. You can’t get any more sweeter than that.

I wonder what happens though if you place that exact situation in a country such as Malaysia? There is a certain issue when it comes to public displays of affection and my own country. The higher ups tend to get a little…squeamish about the whole thing. Maybe it’s because they are people who are parochially conservative, maybe they are people enjoy prodding us until we can stand no more or maybe they are just people who are jealous because they can’t get any. I don’t know, I don’t think I would want to know because if I did, I would feel compelled to fix the problem since it’s just too plain ridiculous to leave alone.

But that’s the situation back home. A place where you can be hauled into court for hugging/kissing/holding hands in public. Of course, this situation does in fact involve young people who by national law are prohibited from such acts in public if they are not married yet because it is considered by some as immoral and indecent. But out of sheer curiosity, I would like to see the public opinion when two old people who have been married for a long time do this in public in Malaysia.

Would they be hauled up into court too? Would they be scolded by people because they think such acts make them look younger than they are? Or will they be left alone, a testament to the hypocritical conservativeness which governs the moral policing of my country?

I can’t say for sure, I’m a student of science and legal systems are far from my forte to understand them. What I do understand is that is affection of any kind between two people that care and love each other isn’t immoral when expressed in the public eye. It’s only when the public eye percieves that expression as wrong, then you might have a bigger problem than just being hauled up into court.

A society that hides away from that kind of expression of intimacy is a society that denies itself the fact that we’re not just social animals, but we’re human as well. It isn’t a debate whether this is morally degrading to the asian culture, it isn’t a debate whether its morally right or wrong. To me, things like this is just a debate when you’re human or not…anything else is purely hypocritical.

In the mean time, we’ll just carry on doing what we always do. One day at a time and maybe in the future, some things might be better in the end.

Me: You think we’ll come to a point where we’ll still be that way when we’re their age?
Mel: I don’t think that far ahead.

Very far away in the future indeed.

7 thoughts on “Early Morning Thoughts

  1. Ya that would be interesting to see… What would also be interesting would be to see the reaction to men holding hands. This is common in Arab countries, and most of those who insist on Islamicising everything in Malaysia often also seem to believe that anything Arab is also Islamically correct – for example the way in which PAS call their annual conference a “muktamar” (as opposed to the BM word).

  2. You know what would really get Malaysia’s socks off? Married men holding each others hands. Now I wonder how tolerent that would be. 🙂

  3. You mention those in their 50s, I find elderly people 70+ who hold hands and hug in public very sweet. Some would have been together for 50 years! Imagine that…

  4. Ooops, actually what I meant to say what people older than the 50’s. Yeah, for some reason, it just registers in your head that something like that is just so sweet. The kind that would definitely break you out into a smile no matter what mood you’re in. 🙂

  5. I’ve seen them before on the LRT trains and in church. Elders lovingly helping each other onto the train, holding their hands, sometimes even kissing on the cheek.

    I feel so jealous whenever I see them.

  6. That’s odd, I have never seen them aside from here, at least not on an almost daily frequency. Especially in restaurants.

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