There was a time when the love we felt revolved around flying high and feeling lost in the cloud as you floated in a state of blissful unawareness. A time when nothing in the world mattered and every dying rose was unaccounted for simply because you were constantly replacing them with the new ones as a matter of perspective.
I remember that time. I like living in that time of my life…but as the cliche goes, all good things must come to an end. One way or another, you’re going to find yourself either grounded to love or have it float away to a place you can never live.
Yet of the two choices, being grounded to love isn’t so depressing as it sounds. Think of it as climbing Mount Everest, it’s a pain in the ass to get up there, but when you do and even though you’re on the ground, you’re still on top of the world. It makes sense when you think about what it takes to make a relationship work the way we grew up believing.
Of course, people do tend to mix up being in a grounded relationship and being in a dying relationship, but it’s not really hard to work out the differences there. You don’t really cry that much and wonder why you put up with the relationship when you’re grounded. You’re just happy, you’re not giddy enough to fall off the cliff, you know where you’re going, you know what you’re doing and most importantly you why you’re doing it.
“To be content to be thought foolish and stupid in regard to things” best sums up to be in a grounded relationship. Love should have the desire to do crazy things, but it doesn’t mean we have to be crazy to do them. It means we know just how much consequence we have to pay for the ones we love that they are worth the things we are crazy for. Given just how crazy a relationship can be, I doubt we’d want to do any more than absolutely necessary to make things just right for both people – dysfunctionally imperfect.
So here’s to those of us who have walked hand in hand with the ones we love, knowing that the future isn’t really built on the fairy tale ideas of love. Here is to those of us who know that with anything in life, the best things aren’t about feeling like you’re on top of the world, but the single step moments as both of you take to reach for the sky and know perfectly well you’re not going to plummet to the ground the moment you realise there is nothing there to hold you up.