Lest We Forget When We Were Kids

Somehow, I find myself drawn to a small matter on our part of the blogosphere concerning two people and the way they look. One happens to define how good her physical features are based on the small physical flaws another blogger looks. The other blogger naturally isn’t exactly happy about it. Then again, given that this touches people in different ways altogether, you’re naturally going to expect people standing up for either the reason why it’s bad to compare people based on the princess complex and people talking about freedom of speech…for the umpteenth time.

But given time to think about all this, I’m not going to talk about why physical looks is subjective and isn’t really important. I’m not going to talk about freedom of speech and the way people should be able to express themselves however they want even if it defies responsibility and conduct. I’ve talked about them enough on my blog and I like to step back and consider something that some of us have forgotten all along.

For those of us who have been blogging for a long time, those of us who have been living out there for a long while now, socializing, working and homing the skills we know have become part and parcel of our livelyhood, we tend to forget that at one point in life, we were all young, naive, immature and irresponsible. We were in our teens once, and despite the age, how many of us believed that we were invincible? That the responsibilities for our actions are not accountable to us. That whatever we say, we think we have a point based on what we know and that people should listen to us. That whatever we do, there is no consequence but whatever we feel like doing at the moment, for the moment. Do you remember that age? I certainly have forgotten it quite a few times.

The deeper we run ourselves into the brick wall called “the responsible adult”, we learn that everything has it’s price, every move has a consequence to maintain. We learn not just to be responsible for ourselves, but towards others as well because when you step out there to work with people, you are working with people. We learn to get along with others, learn what to say and what not to do. It’s not about the iron fist of authority, it’s about maintaining civility and sociability on a professional level. The kind of level that pays for your own bills and keeps the food warm with a roof over your head. How many youths actually have to deal with that level of responsbility? Quite a few maybe…but that doesn’t apply here.

It’s situations like this where children behave exactly as children and adults are behaving exactly like adults. It is that gap that forces us to stand for our definition of right and wrong based what we know, experienced and believe in and while true that some lines do have to be drawn, let’s not forget that kids will always be kids. If we can’t force them to rise to the level we have grown up to become, at least don’t let ourselves return to what we once were.

For now, let them have their irresponsibility of youth as we once had. We all know that they will learn one day. And while we can’t seriously think we are that catalyst for change, at least know that eventually some actions will bite us back when we least expect it…by then who knows? Everybody grows old, but at least have faith that some people hopefully do grow up.

5 thoughts on “Lest We Forget When We Were Kids

  1. Good advice. Young people should be left to make (some of) their mistakes. I say this from experience as a teenager who’s going to be an adult soon. Having supressed so much of my curiousity and emotions just to please others and behave, I’m not ready to grow up. I feel as if I didn’t have a childhood.

    P.S. Nice Blog

  2. 5-10 years from now, they’re all going to look back at this and laugh. Hell, I’m actually laughing now. 😀

  3. Sukyee: Feeling as if you didn’t have a childhood doesn’t stop you from actually having one. Responsibilities and living up to expectations are two different things entirely. One is a necessity, the other is just something wanted whether by you or by others. No one is ready to grow up. But life stops for nobody. You’ll know when it comes, until then…it’s just about expectations.

    Dee: Nothing really to laugh about. It’s sad actually. The way people tend to forget and mask what is under what they think is the best thing to do. Life changes, sometimes, that can be a bad thing.

    Chickybabe: Well…it is the expectations of the adult. It is in the nature of children to pay for the choices that adults make. Sometimes we forget that we were the ones paying for the choices that adults made for us when we were young. It’s a vicious cycle.

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