It’s never been an easy task, living this relationship every single day. Most days, it’s much simpler to believe that I literally am single, alone in a world that pays no attention to the things I accomplish in it. However, regardless of what lies I tell myself to get through the worst days, the truth is still that I have someone waiting for me. Even if she’s several hundred thousand miles away, it still doesn’t warrant a relationships status as being single. It doesn’t even warrant a Facebook relationship status as “It’s Complicated”.
That’s because regardless of how hard it is to make a relationship work in life, the bottom line for love and relationships are that they are never complicated. They are always simple and straightforward. They always give is options and paths that we need to walk. If anything, the whole deal with love is that it is like lifting an engine block out of a car.
The mechanics of it is simple enough, you need a winch strong enough to take the weight of the engine. It does not take a rocket scientist to figure out how to operate the winch or attach it to the engine. It is simple and straighforward enough. However, to commit to actually lifting the engine out of the car is a different story. You might not have enough strength to pull up the engine. You might not be able to reach around to chain the winch around the engine block. It’s not an easy thing to do if you have limited experience, but it’s still pretty straightforward.
So much like being in a relationship.
What’s there to be complicated about love to begin with? You accept and embrace the person you love for who they are, for better and for worse. You complement their actions, or at least work on complementing the facades in which they run their daily lives with you. To which you should be able to find security and comfort in a relationship, your fears and doubt washed away in the words and actions that your partner offers in your weakest moments.
That’s what relationships between two people in love should be about. You don’t have to wrack your brains to figure out what’s what. It’s simple enough to understand what exactly to do when you’re in one.
Of course, whether you’re willing to make those choices and some sacrifices, whether you have the strength to see through the hardest of moments; or whether you are willing to spend the rest of your life with a person who probably has the same kind of doubts and fears about the relationship as you do, all of it, is another story altogether. And in those hard choices to make in love, not everyone has the wisdom or experience to see it as it really is, let alone to see it until the end.
Ultimately, love is a simple thing in life. You give and you take. You share and you embrace. You live with it and you live through it. It has never been complicated and I doubt it ever will. That at least is something to keep in mind through the hardest parts of it all. Take that wisdom from me at least. You’ll feel better about the choices you’re about to make with your own relationships and that’s a whole lot better than the alternative.
You know it’s true.