Are You Happy With Your Life?

It’s a simple question, to which I have a simple and honest answer.

I do not know.

In my defense, happiness is something I’ve never really sought in my life. I’ve learnt from a very young age that with happiness, comes everything else that’s not exactly happy. Misery and pessimism for one are worlds I’m much more accustomed to living. Not to say that it’s always a bad thing to be living in a cynical world where you have to endure the roller coaster of emotions all the time. It’s just that when you look at things this way, to appreciate the simple moments of happiness, you have to appreciate the abyss as well.

Yet, if I look back at my life right now. Everything I’ve seen. Everything I’ve gone through. Everything I’ve endured. Everything I’ve achieved. Everything I have. I have a lot of things in the world that many people don’t. Then again, I also don’t have a lot of things in the world that many people take for granted. If there are a million and one things in the world I should be happy for, there are also a million and one things I shouldn’t be smiling at.

So no. I don’t really know whether I’m happy with my life because I stand right in the middle of the fence. It’s hard to be happy when you know what it cost to get the things you want. It’s harder still to be sad when you know you’ve gotten them already.

What I am is content and at peace with my life. Now that’s something I would walk the fine line for for as long as I draw breath.

6 thoughts on “Are You Happy With Your Life?

  1. So the question that would be better applied would be, are you content?

    Which, from above, says that you are. It’s easier to be content than it is to be happy, but it’s surprising how few people realise that.

  2. I think most people don’t realize that happiness is not the absence of problems but their ability to surmount them. Without problems who can appreciate happiness. It follows that the more problems we have, the happier we stand to get. Now is it me or does that sound totally weird. 🙂

  3. Pat: Actually, it’s harder to be content than to be happy. Anyone can flow through the ups and downs. Not many people can truly be satisfied with where they are even through the ups and downs.

    Grendel: Actually, the more we accept the reality of the problems, the more we can appreciate the joys that come to surpassing it. There is a difference between being happy and understanding why we’re happy. 🙂

  4. My mother drew a distinction between achievement and success. She said that achievement is the knowledge that you have studied and worked hard and done the best that is in you.Success is being praised by others,and thats nice too but not as important or satisfying.Always aim for achievement and forget about success…..Helen Hayes

  5. content brings happiness. w/o it, u will never feel happy. true, you can say u are content but you are not happy, though somehow, it’s quite hard for me to imagine someone who is content but not happy.

  6. Being content and being happy are two completely different things. You can have the things you need and want and still go through life’s ups and downs. That separation or peace from emotion is more a Buddhist philosophy. But it is quite real.

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