A few days ago, I wrote about how I’ve come to realise that as much as I would hate to admit it, part of my life has become about blogging. As much as I live out there, it can never feel as complete as when I sit down and recollect my thoughts into an expressive whole like what I’m doing right now. I suppose when you spend the most important parts of your life writing it down for the world to see, there are moments of inspiration and lessons that define not just the blog that you are a part off, but the life in which feeds the words on your blog. I thought you might want to know them too.
- Live Before You Do:
One of the fundamental things I tell every new blogger is for the most part, even if blogging is your life, you have to live an actual life first before you draw on to any sense of inspiration to write about anything. That is no different from being out there in the real world. To walk those first steps to doing anything worthwhile, whether it be love, play or work. How we handle it, how much we know where to start, depends on how much you’ve “been there”.
After all, how will you know who the right one is for you or how to keep the relationship alive if you haven’t experienced it for yourself? How will you know if your future career is what you want to do if you haven’t seen all that life can offer out there? Just as blogging depends on our experience in doing things to write something worthwhile, so too does life need that trial and error to set you on the right course. No one is good from the start. You just have to experience it for yourself to find out just how capable you are and just how much you can pick up from it in the end.
- Bite Off What You Can Chew:
Not just referring to your food either, although that is still very good common sense. One of the worst things a blog can do is when they say or write something they have no comprehension off. It affects both bloggers new and old in the sense that aspiring bloggers try and break into the blogosphere by blogging about things that have already been done to death and passing it off as though they found it first or that they are smart enough to hang out with the big boys and girls; at the same time, veteran bloggers and sometimes the more established ones, fall into the trap of trying to be vocal about matters they don’t usually talk about, let alone grasp. This often dilutes the quality of what they write, people will grow tired of it and most importantly, it can destroy their credibility.
Talking and doing things that you know and understand raises the quality of your work, not just in blogging, but in life. While it’s not bad to branch out on other things, it’s another thing entirely to be the armchair pundit in trying to explain how the socio-economic future of the country is being run by blockheads when you have no idea how the economy works. The thing about admitting you don’t know is that more often than not, people will try and educate you about, or like me, if you add this to my first point, you can go out and start learning about it yourself, just for kicks and to not feel left out. The real bonus is when people begin value you for the things that they know you’re good at, especially when it comes to working in the real world. Doing the best you can do, on what you know you can do is perhaps one of the best common sense to follow. It makes you better than you appear to be, without actually trying too hard to be. How is that not a good thing?
- Grow Up Instead Of Growing Old:
As blogs age and mature, so too does its readers. Talking about whether you look good or not in your cutely posed pictures may apply to when you’re 16, but not after 5 years, let alone 10. The longer you blog, the more certain things become tiring, even irrelevant to the readers and most importantly, to you. As a result, our scope of topics change as do the way we write and our readers who read in reflection to our constantly changing environment. It’s not that we’ve become different people, it’s just that we’ve begun to refine the ways we express ourselves on our blogs on the same topics we shared so long ago. Just as angst-filled, picture-splashed should finally give way to poetic stories of joy and sadness or tech-reporting blogs should finally become hands-on, how-to geek blogs that knows what it’s talking about because they have done it.
This is perhaps no different than how we live life. As much as we want to reminisce about the past, and relive the good ol’ days. The best moments in life come when we decide to take a step out of what we used to know and turn it into something much more refined. Life is so much bigger than what we remember or what we were raised to see. Staying put in your own niche, in your own comfort zone, talking about the same old things, will only cause you to waste those precious moments away. Growing old, while the world around you changes to a point where you don’t recognise it anymore. Growing up simply is simply welcoming that rest of life with the same exuberance that makes you who you are.
At the end of it, just like blogs, what matters to you and the way you hold yourself up changes, but never who you are, in the face of a world so beautiful and so terrifying at the same time. And maybe one of the best things to know is that maybe, you’ll have friends you can count on grow up with you, rather than have them leave you behind, all to yourself, in a place you stopped trying to understand.
I hope that at the end of the day, especially if you’ve blogged for a long time, that you can draw the same parallels between blogging and real life. It makes sense for me simply because there are no distinctions between what I do online and how I run my life. As far as I’m concerned, they are one and the same, one part mirroring the other and if there is anything I’ve learned is that there is never a limit to where we can find wisdom worth holding on to. That lesson itself is something worth blogging about.