Whether we like it or not, the entire purpose of a blog is all about attention. Whether we realise it or not, a blog is simply our thoughts and feelings placed out there on the net for everyone to view and scrutinize. Even if you DO password protect it or do your best to hide it, what is the point of doing such a thing in the first place? If you really don’t want people to see…then you might as well put it on pen and paper.
No school like old school when it comes to hiding stuff.
So it came to an important realisation…even if we write who we are in our blogs, there is a certain level of attention seeking whether we admit it or not. I’m not saying it is a wrong thing or a right thing. I am just saying that it is what it is. Anyone who blogs online can’t seriously deny a level of personal satisfaction when they know people have been reading what they write.
After all…that is what it is. Nothing can be more satisfying to a blogger when a person reads and shares their thoughts and favourable opinions on their posts. It’s what blogging therapy is about really…especially in regards to personal blogs who put their entire feelings on the line out there for the world to see.
That’s where the hypocrisy starts.
It’s starting to become increasingly obvious people tend to avoid depressing or philosophical blogs in general because it gives them a headache and for fears that it makes them depressed to think about it. Taking myself into example here is what someone said about my blog when I wasn’t around.
(xxxxx): cos almost always…after reading…i am filled with an untold grief.
It’s not really my intention to fill people with untold grief. It seriously isn’t. I’m blogging exactly who I am and what I’m going through at the moment. I don’t have the happy tales to tell people like other people who get better hits. I’m not in a line where I can twist and turn words into works of art that make you laugh your socks off. I’m not one of those people who at the moment can enjoy the company of a relationship or spend my life in a relaxed mood enough to enjoy his life.
I’m not all those.
I’m me. My blog is me. I write because this is what I’m going through at the moment. Yes…and I admit…I write too because I have no one to share my sentiments too when I need them the most. It’s always bad time to have all these insecurities come up when no one is listening. But again…that is me. It just so happens that my blog is the focal point of my social life and there is not a damn thing I can do about it.
The hypocrisy is there simply because the same people who advocate people for writing who they are on their blogs don’t have the same heart to take people for who they are in their posts. “Congratulations you write for who you are…but I’m sorry I can’t accept you for who are.” Gee whiz…the friends who you think you can rely on to be there.
It’s like saying I’m there for you…then bolting when you need it.
If you blog for who you are, then having friends through blogs is no different than friends in real life. If friendship is about being there for who you are in spite of yourself, then how are blogs any different? So what if a person writes sad things about their lives? Is that any reason to pay no attention to them? Are you that selfish and self centered that you only care about your own happiness rather than being there for a person who needs to be happy? Are you saying you won’t care for a sad friend in real life? Here is the thing…there are people who pour their life into what they write.
Blogging is as real to them as anything else in this world.
Maybe it’s just people like me who pays more attention to those “depressing” blogs because it’s who I am, I don’t want to see people sad. I care for it the same way I care for anyone I know in real life and online. I’m not asking you to care for every depressing blog you find like me, but if you’re interested enough to return time and time again. Then don’t complain that the person writes depressingly…just stand by them instead. Hurt always takes time to heal.
But having someone there makes it go away faster.
It doesn’t matter whether you’re in the real world or in your blog. In the end…there is nothing wrong with writing for who you are, it’s just sad that other people don’t practice what they preach or are willing to stand by the responsibilities of what they say is the better thing to do.
Well…all I can do is keep doing what I try to do.
Write who I am and hope for the best of things.
That at least messages like this reach the people I want to reach.
But that’s only wishful thinking for a small fry like me.