Why You Can’t Simply Believe You’re Happy

Believing that you can do it doesn’t always equate to being able to do it. Not that I’m trying to discourage anyone here, but I would think I’m a poster child for the impossibly accomplished and I’m the one telling you that believing isn’t enough to get you there.

Actually doing it on the other hand would give you a better shot. Regardless of whether you believe it can be done or not, that “second opinion” that’s always evading you always starts off with an action, not a thought.

I don’t know why people continuously choose to run and hide from their problems. Whether it be their own failed attempts to be happy in their life or it be from a single event where everything went wrong. Choosing to believe in something otherwise doesn’t change the reality of the situation.

I could never be happy if I subscribed to your ideals of walking away when the going gets rough. I would actually feel worse off if I subscribed to your perception that we should always look on the bright side of things in the face of the problems we’re knee deep in. Both of you have your own problems your perceptions can’t deal with. For that I know it just doesn’t work, not where I’m standing.

Maybe that’s just as well. I wake up in the morning wondering what the next step of the solution is and I go to sleep at night wondering what the next problem might be. It isn’t always a most restful of life, given that my only solace is what comforts me as I go to sleep, but on a whole, I’m happier simply because I stopped believing I am and can be happy.

All it took is knowing what happiness what and just walking towards it and I know you don’t need to believe you have two feet for that.

5 thoughts on “Why You Can’t Simply Believe You’re Happy

  1. A few weeks ago I was content with my life thinking that I was happy. The next week after that I went into depression. It was mostly to do with the spring arriving. Now I’m procrastinating on making a phone call that could give a start to solve my problems. I’m almost up to a point that I can’t run anymore, but I know I’ll keep on running.

  2. I used to wonder all that before going to sleep and when I wake up. Now I just let go of most things, and make happy of some of the little things. I sleep a lot better.

  3. Dice: And nothing will be solved. It’s a cycle that can only be broken when you close your eyes and start walking forward. Sometimes you just have to stop caring about the things that stand in your way. Better suited then to face it head on.

    Cléa: I did that once. Got into a lot of trouble because I began to have problems…solving problems. I’m that kind of a slow thinker. I have to think of what to do ahead of time, otherwise the solutions simply escape me.

  4. your writings are so broad and vague that readers can project anything we want.

    i think the more important problem that needs to be tackled is a sense of identity, of who we are.

    are we really content being a stay-at-home mom? do we really want to be a doctor? when we do not know who we are and what we want to become, that’s where doubt sets in. delay happens. nothing gets done out of indecisiveness.

    and then the happiness thing gets all tangled up. we don’t even know what we want, how to be happy with what we are doing right now?

  5. You define yourself through the life you live. It is the question that is answered not with words but with the actions of our own hands. If you’re stuck wondering what everything is and what if and what happens? Nothing is going to happen and you’re no closer to defining your sense of self any more than you actually are happy.

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