My conversations with a sick Cas late last night brought up a very interesting topic that went about something like this:
“Would you date a 9ruler?”
“That’s more pertinent than you think and it depends.”
“The 9ruler and whether I could get them to sign the official secrets act.”
So would you date a 9ruler? Or for those of you who still don’t know what 9rules is (shame on you), would you date a blogger? Because the way I see it, being with bloggers does raise a certain amount of privacy complications. Despite my narcissism over the matter, I do find a need to protect Mel’s privacy in my own blog, not for my sake, but hers. She isn’t a blogger and she certainly isn’t someone who likes the limelight. So whatever I write has to balance between my need for expression and her needs for anonymity.
Not to say that it isn’t possible. I just think that because blogging is about the expression of ones self and since being anonymous or cryptic opposes that, to be free to express how you feel and still keep the matters utterly private isn’t just hallmark of a good blogger. It’s hallmark of a good writer, one that many have yet to achieve, myself included.
Yet, on the other end of the extreme, it is entirely possible for two bloggers to get together like some of my friends. For them, the matter solely boils down to trust and acceptance. How much do you trust your partner to keep certain things private? How acceptable can one be towards the possibility that some moments are shared with the world? More so on personal blogs where bliss and problems are expressed in the moments we experience them.
To make matters a little more complicated, what about casual dates? Would you blog about good they are or how bored you were? Would you respect that privacy and not blog about it? Or would you just do the cryptic thing again?
Too many questions, too little answers. Yet it all boils down to the simple matter of common sense. When is it good etiquette to say “Alright, no blogging about this”? Even if you don’t mind the public light, there are a lot of people that would rather eat a dead slug than have their names plastered on the net. Trust and acceptance is a rare thing to come by in this world and not all of us are lucky enough to have the people we date being alright with this mode of expression. More often than not, we just have to keep it that way, not for our sakes, but for theirs.
So given that thought, would you still date a blogger? Or lets try taking it a little higher with bloggers who are good at what they do. Would you still date a 9ruler?