I have a sneaky suspicion that for a long time now I’ve been alienating the bulk of the people that would make up for the readers of this blog. In my mind at least, despite all the exposure I have, the amount of people who continue to read or interact on this blog has never really increased at all. In fact, for the most part, I’ve actually had a decrease in readers of late and my comments have practically come to a stand still.
I really don’t know what reason people have to not come back and read, but in ways, I have more than a fair share of theories as to why this happens. So naturally, you’d expect them to be listed down. Much like this:
- I am not a girl – There is no way I can write this point off without sounding sexist. On a whole, I feel that bloggers that are women tend to get more attentive hits. Men’s brains are wired that way. You have a girl who talks about her ideas, her state of mind. You’re going to stay long enough to get to know them. Long enough to find out all you can about them. Men have the patience for it once they get the whiff that they might possibly get something out of it. I’m not a girl and the opposite doesn’t always hold true, which is what brings us to the second point.
- I don’t write like a man – This part has been brought up more than once. On a whole, I do not write like a normal guy. I don’t use hard hitting words. My train of thoughts has always been more emotionally sensitive than to the brawny point. I write less factual posts as opposed to writing what I’m wearing on my sleeves at this moment. In truth, people aren’t always comfortable with that. People don’t always see the point of that. While people expect to comfort women in their moments of emotional pondering. How do you comfort an emotional guy? I know that pushes a lot of people away.
- I read too deeply into things – The point of this blog was supposed to be that I write whatever is on my mind. Unfortunately my mind was never normal to begin with. I rationalize further along the line than a lot of people can see. While whatever I felt may not have been comforted by people as I would hoped, whatever I thought couldn’t have been understood by people as I would have liked. If people can’t understand where I’m coming from and where I’m going with it. There is no way they are going to come back for more, much less give their own train of thoughts and turn it into a discussion.
- I don’t interact with regular people – Perhaps one of my greatest shortcomings is that I on a whole, don’t interact with anyone and everyone the way that interests people. Half the time I can’t understand what people are saying. The other half of the time I can’t relate in a way that people can understand what I’m saying. Given that building a community involves persistently involving yourself in other communities at the same time, if I don’t find a way to communicate with other people soon, I’ll lose any reason for people to drop by regardless of my exposure to the world.
At the end of it, as much as I would want to say I can live by a small community of people around my blog, at it is, I need to actually have people around to have that community to start off with. There is only a certain amount of envy towards my peers I can stand before I run off and blog about how something isn’t right and how being unique has its downsides and then turn everyone off.
The point here in its entirety is that if you want people to read your blog, if you want to build a community from it, you have to stop pushing people away. The truth is that as much as we are told to concentrate on our niche, we also have to stop ourselves from alienating the normal people that make up the bulk of the world. Those are the people that will eventually be our niche at the end of the day given the chance. To win people with your uniqueness at least, you either have to have to have a cult of personality or tone down a little of who you are. It makes a lot of difference at the end of the day.
Otherwise you’re going to end up like me and that’s really not a good thing.