Back in the grand old days when blogs weren’t a household name and the internet on our phones was just an awesome concept, there were those of us who blogged ever so freely. Over time though, we learned a couple of things we could do with our blogs. One of it was that it didn’t have to resign itself to being a glorified online diary. Two and we learned this pretty fast, is that writing thoughts and opinions comes at the cost of having people read them. If you can call it a cost.
The thing that people don’t seem to realize is, no matter how much you think you’re a speck in a very large world, as long as it is online for the world to see, people will always read it and as much as you think you matter in a very small world, even if you do put it online, people won’t read it as much as you think they do. It’s one of those rules of blogging that has as much as a thumb to it.
For a while now, I’ve witness a number of people slow down or stop blogging entirely because whatever they write online is drawing the attention they don’t want. I’m not just talking about the bad stuff too, I’m talking about people who suddenly feel that their private life shouldn’t be witnessed by people from all around the world. My only question to them is this. Why in the world are you blogging and putting your life online then?
I’ve been writing my personal life on this blog for a long time. Anyone who is anyone who has read it from years before would have an idea about my personal life and I know a few of you share in smaller details that I omitted from pretty picture. Thing is, I’m not afraid of the consequences, nor of people’s opinions of the matter simply because I believe if we have the right to say what we want to say, then by all means, so do other people as well. What I can do is make sure whatever I write doesn’t always contain the parts of the story that hurts me or anyone else.
It’s a lost art that. Writing cryptically. Most people who take it to an art form are often people with a remarked flair of words. People like myself however, have to slowly pick up the pace, learning from those who’s faces are obscured by their own writing, only serving to share their lives so intimately and yet so incompletely at the same time. There is no reason why our own narcissism can’t have magic of its own we all can enjoy. It’s not that it’s a bad thing, it’s just that there won’t be a reason we keep coming back to share our lives with strangers of the moment if we didn’t enjoy that attention to some degree. It’s whether we care to admit it or not that makes a difference between a truly good personal blogger and a hypocrite.
Of course, if you really want to write it all down without people to see, there is always a foolproof way at it that people have been doing for centuries. It’s called writing it down on a paged diary with a pen or a pencil. Rest assured, no one could ever find out whatever moments you’re freezing in time unless you hang it in front of everyone to see. Then again, it’s not like anyone is going to comment on what you wrote, though I think that kinda defeats the purpose of having one.
Still…for people at least who think their lives they put down for all to see don’t bear any consequences to the future, think again. If it’s the first thing we veteran bloggers learn, it’ll be the first thing you learn too. Back then at least, the consequences weren’t so bad. These days, being sued, jailed or just plain fired is the least of our worries. We just have to remember that privacy and common sense is your own business not anyone else. If you can’t handle the heat, then just don’t do it.
Or you can give this a chance for a change.