Then Why Are You Blogging?

Back in the grand old days when blogs weren’t a household name and the internet on our phones was just an awesome concept, there were those of us who blogged ever so freely. Over time though, we learned a couple of things we could do with our blogs. One of it was that it didn’t have to resign itself to being a glorified online diary. Two and we learned this pretty fast, is that writing thoughts and opinions comes at the cost of having people read them. If you can call it a cost.

The thing that people don’t seem to realize is, no matter how much you think you’re a speck in a very large world, as long as it is online for the world to see, people will always read it and as much as you think you matter in a very small world, even if you do put it online, people won’t read it as much as you think they do. It’s one of those rules of blogging that has as much as a thumb to it.

For a while now, I’ve witness a number of people slow down or stop blogging entirely because whatever they write online is drawing the attention they don’t want. I’m not just talking about the bad stuff too, I’m talking about people who suddenly feel that their private life shouldn’t be witnessed by people from all around the world. My only question to them is this. Why in the world are you blogging and putting your life online then?

I’ve been writing my personal life on this blog for a long time. Anyone who is anyone who has read it from years before would have an idea about my personal life and I know a few of you share in smaller details that I omitted from pretty picture. Thing is, I’m not afraid of the consequences, nor of people’s opinions of the matter simply because I believe if we have the right to say what we want to say, then by all means, so do other people as well. What I can do is make sure whatever I write doesn’t always contain the parts of the story that hurts me or anyone else.

It’s a lost art that. Writing cryptically. Most people who take it to an art form are often people with a remarked flair of words. People like myself however, have to slowly pick up the pace, learning from those who’s faces are obscured by their own writing, only serving to share their lives so intimately and yet so incompletely at the same time. There is no reason why our own narcissism can’t have magic of its own we all can enjoy. It’s not that it’s a bad thing, it’s just that there won’t be a reason we keep coming back to share our lives with strangers of the moment if we didn’t enjoy that attention to some degree. It’s whether we care to admit it or not that makes a difference between a truly good personal blogger and a hypocrite.

Of course, if you really want to write it all down without people to see, there is always a foolproof way at it that people have been doing for centuries. It’s called writing it down on a paged diary with a pen or a pencil. Rest assured, no one could ever find out whatever moments you’re freezing in time unless you hang it in front of everyone to see. Then again, it’s not like anyone is going to comment on what you wrote, though I think that kinda defeats the purpose of having one.

Still…for people at least who think their lives they put down for all to see don’t bear any consequences to the future, think again. If it’s the first thing we veteran bloggers learn, it’ll be the first thing you learn too. Back then at least, the consequences weren’t so bad. These days, being sued, jailed or just plain fired is the least of our worries. We just have to remember that privacy and common sense is your own business not anyone else. If you can’t handle the heat, then just don’t do it.

Or you can give this a chance for a change.

8 thoughts on “Then Why Are You Blogging?

  1. you know what bugs me? people who blog because they think is cool and all their friends are doing it. they start a blog because they think its a fad, and they think it defines them as part of the cool culture. attention seekers, more than anything. often, their blogs die out because they are not getting the attention they seek.

    i agree with you when you say that writing is a dying art. i also feel however, that some people just should not kid themselves by thinking that being a blogger brings you to a higher level of cool. writing, constructively and expressively, is not easy. whether one becomes a politically-motivated critique, or a glorified diarist (there ain’t nothing wrong with this, really), one should write with a purpose. always.

  2. With blogging becoming so mainstream, I feel the quality has dropped somehow. I’ve seen many good blogger/writers come and go, hopefully for greener pastures but then like any good thing, it has a time limit and it needs to evolve and develop otherwise the person remains static, and so does their blog.

    As far as the level of detail people choose to reveal, as long as they understand the consequences and privacy issues, it’s up to them to reveal as much as they like. I’m not one to share the finer details of my in public yet I get the point across.

    And there’s another way bloggers can semi protect themselves, and that is by password-protected blogs with a limited audience. Though everyone I know who has had one didn’t stick with it. It kind of defeats the purpose.

  3. Bloggers come and go. Yes, I agree with philters there are a lot of people who blog because it was deemed cool and funky. Just like the surge of “political bloggers” just after the political tsunami hit the country on march 8th. If they are not prosecuted, most of them will die a natural death.
    But there are a whole lot of veteran bloggers who slowed down or stopped blogging completely because of other commitments; like work and family.

    p/s: BTW, happy belated birthday to you.

  4. well, i know a lot of wannabes who can’t even blog with proper english around secondary school and probably a number of primary school kids whom i’ve visited while pressing links around.

    but after 2 months, or maybe more, the blog is either dead or deleted.

    i have people who hate me, i guess so do you.
    whether its real life, or blogs, people are still people.

    they hate me for wasting their time on my blog, i’m actually wondering whythey bothered to read since they find it boring in the first place, and they never leave any of their contact, strange eh? probably geeks, since one of them had the IP address same as mine once. bunch of real life losers trying to bring people down even in online worlds.

    blogging is simply recording to me, and a reflection, like a film with commentary turned on, agree? well, people all have different reasons. i first blogged cause it was a fab, but i stopped almost immediately, but a year or 2 later, i tried again, this time i had what i want in mind.

    so here i am, blogging my way, sometimes i whine sometimes i’m relevant. sometimes i’m childish, thats the way i am, and i’m definitely original.

  5. Philters: It gets at me too. Then again, because it’s common knowledge that they will die out eventually, I don’t really bother with them at all. The best I can do if I see good content is try and help it along, encourage a conversation, comment. Sometimes though, it isn’t about the trying to be cool, it’s having the illusion that your blog is untouchable without consequence. The real world usually takes care of that.

    Cléa: Ooh, I know you are not one to share the finer points of you life in public. You’re one of the few people I know that take it to an art form, perhaps one of the best I have read. You are my inspiration. Though, in retrospect, having many posts that are password protected does defeat the purpose of a public blog. Why put it online and having most of what you write hidden from plain view? If that is the point then you might as well not put it there at all, which is the point of this post to begin with.

    Kaz: Thank you. 🙂 Putting blogs aside for more important things in life shows that they do value what matters. It doesn’t matter in the end how frequent people post, it matters that they come back with experiences that make what they write worth reading. Those kind of blogs are far and few in between these days.

    Yongwei: What people do with their time is their business. If I can entertain them for it, it’s all good. Being original is one thing. Growing up with your blog is another. A lot of blogs, even veteran blogs stay stagnant in the face of style and substance. It’s not that they are getting worse. It’s that they are getting old. A frozen blog rather than a recording of frozen moments in life.

  6. I blog because I can write about things that I wouldn’t usually tell anyone. I love being able to blog anonymously. I don’t have to hold back and can say what I really want to say and have people (strangers) read it and give me their much appreciated perspective.

  7. What I’m sad is, the people who jump into blogging don’t realize that blogging comes with responsibility. We have medical students who blog about kinky stuffs, pose almost nude, write facts misleadingly… we have famous bloggers promoting laxatives for weight loss. I think the new bloggers just don’t have a sense of moral responsibility sometimes.

  8. I wouldn’t go as far as to say moral responsibility. Rather without a sense of ethical consequences for their actions especially towards themselves. They fail to stop and ask, “if I do this? how does this affect my future?” Unfortunately, the current trend of blogging means that people who could very well be your future employers, patients or clients can know who you are. It goes without saying, your past can come back and bite down at you hard.

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